I love my roommate to death but seriously she is the most scheduled person I have ever met. More on this later...because if I am not ready in 20 minutes she will probably bite my head off. :)
Whew...finding time to write seems to be getting harder and harder to do. But ALAS, I have some time to spare between classes so I thought.. "why not!". I am almost done with my first week of classes and I would say that it has been quite a success. Minus the part where I had to buy textbooks because that is just a downer every.single.year. They also have "course readers" here which I think is a brilliant idea. You buy them from Campus Copy and they have all of your classes readings in them. Good alternative to buying textbooks, right? Right. Except for the fact that usually you have to buy a course reader AND books which I personally do not understand at all. Oh wellll.
All right, so to keep you all informed on my roommate situation I must update this post-- Now its no big secret that I am not a scheduled person BUT I do enjoy getting places on time (in most cases) and making flexible plans. My roommate takes this to a whole new level that I cannot even explain. If we are running even two minutes late she has to call the person we are meeting with just to let them know. Reversely, if we are waiting for a friend to come pick us up or something and THEY are more than two minutes late she starts to get really angry and irritated. I wish that I could say that the two minute thing is an exaggeration...but its not. Literally two minutes. Holy.Wow. I don't even know what I'm going to do if she doesn't loosen up a bit. Also, she's very keen on talking about herself in 85% of conversations which is starting to annoy myself and the girls I'm close with as well.
A lot of the conversation also revolves around things her and her "older boyfriend" do together because they are so mature and blahblahblah. O.k, thats cute that she is so into her boyfriend but it has gotten a little excessive. She's positive that he's the one and all of this stuff and they've been together for 3 months..and now shes spending 5 in New Zealand? That's a little tough for me to comprehend but then again most of her ideas and morals in life are.
I mean, I suppose if she just relies on the ability to cheat to keep her and her partners together then it totally makes sense. Oh, did I forget to mention that she almost lives her relationships on the basis of cheating? I'm not even saying that as in..she's cheated before. I'm saying her brain works in the sense that "80% of people cheat in relationships so why not just embrace that idea" basically...she sees sex and love as two completely different things that do not need to be intertwined or connected in any way. So, she loves her boyfriend but if for some reason something happens with another person its not because she doesn't love her boyfriend..its just because she was attracted to this person in a non-romantic way.
So, her and all of her boyfriends have some sort of an understanding that goes like this "if either of us cheat, thats fine, but we won't tell each other because I care about you too much to hurt you." I guess its good that they have some sort of an understanding? But my view has ALWAYS been that if you care about someone enough to be in a relationship with them then you also care about them enough to NOT be with anyone else. This conversation we had still haunts me to this day and it happened at least 4 days ago. Your thoughts? I'm not sure if my ranting even made sense...thats how frazzled the topic makes me feel.
All right, I'm worn out from writing that. I have more to add later about recent adventures but apparently I'm just making posts in sections. Might as well keep it up and leave you wanting more...right? :)
-BriDownUnder
I couldn't help but laugh when I read this. Can't wait to hear more.
ReplyDeleteGood idea with the print-off papers, except the addition of books doesn't really make sense? Whatevs. Errr.. sounds like this chick is a weirdo. I've heard of "open relationships," but I can't say that I understand them either. I agree with the one-to-one function of a socially-accepted relationship the same as you. There are only two ways that I can explain the idea of that kind of relationship: either you can't commit because you're scared of heartbreak or you're just a whore. I'm biased and go with the second option for most of those people, if not all. :) I've been in the shoes of a girl who talks about her boyfriend a little too much, you and I both know that. Sometimes a girl finds herself DEFINING herself through her relationship with her boyfriend, like it's the only thing that gives enough meaning to her life to actually talk about. I'm not saying that's exactly what has happened in this girl's case, but I know it's happened to me in the past so I wouldn't be surprised if that's the case. I sort of laughed to myself when I was reading about the on-time thing, cause I'm the same way your roommate is, haha. Now with like parties and stuff like that where you're expected to be "fashionably late," fine, but with scheduled meetings, I go by the "if you're not early, you're late" motto. Guess marching band drilled that into my head. That's my spiel!
ReplyDeletecan't wait to write back. and no...commenting on all of my posts is not abnormal. i love to hear from my friends...and this is one of the only outlets that i hear your opinion so its great. but, its late..and i really, really need to sleep. just wanted you to know that i would write back asap. <3
ReplyDeleteyeah..The relationship thing is seriously impossible for me to understand. She just walks around Hamilton with the opinion that if she sees anyone she would be interested in then she will go for it. She always says "well..girls have needs!" ok? No. I'm sorry i don't think that argument is valid because yes, exactly, it makes her sound like a whore. like she cant possibly imagine not having sex for 5 months or something. what the hell. really, really, really bothers me. And I think I'm pretty open in most aspects of life. but not that. no. no. no.
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